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Friday 19 June 2015

Happy Father's day - Love you dad !

Not every time ... we have to write our feelings in our own words. Sometimes words written by someone else also can be so meaningful. 

Something I have copy pasted below is the same. Some forwarded message or mail. Not everything is true but so many thing is reminding me of my great Dad. 

I used to say that big boys don't emote.  We don't know how to express love.....we talk cricket instead of giving hug to our dad. We buy some gifts instead of saying thanks to our Mom for  awesome food she makes everyday. We don't cry when something goes wrong instead we grew stronger after each such incident.

I never touched feet of my dad neither hug him till he was alive. It's not that I was taking him and everything he was doing for me as granted but it was mutual understanding between us. We never discuss any sentimental thing. As I usually says....

" He never never taught me how to live....he just lived and let me watch him doing it. That's how my dad was... "

I respect him for whatever he did for me and family. I was bit small to understand all this complex things of life when he left me but I think..... I never struggle with living my life ...and may be that's because of everything I learnt from dad unknowingly by living with him.



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जब मम्मी डाँट रहीं थी 
तो
कोई चुपके से हँसा रहा था,
वो थे पापा. . .

जब मैं सो रहा था
तब 

कोई चुपके से  सिर पर हाथ फिरा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

जब मैं सुबह उठा 
तो
कोई बहुत थक कर भी काम पर जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

खुद कड़ी धूप में रह कर
कोई
मुझे ए.सी. में सुला रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

सपने तो मेरे थे 

पर उन्हें
पूरा करने का रास्ता कोई और बताऐ जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

मैं तो सिर्फ अपनी खुशियों में हँसता हूँ,
पर
मेरी हँसी देख कर कोई अपने गम भुलाऐ जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

फल खाने की ज्यादा जरूरत तो उन्हें थी,
पर
कोई मुझे सेब खिलाए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

खुश तो मुझे होना चाहिए कि वो मुझे मिले ,
पर
मेरे जन्म लेने की खुशी कोई और मनाए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

ये दुनिया पैसों से चलती है
पर
कोई सिर्फ मेरे लिए पैसे कमाए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .


घर में सब अपना प्यार दिखाते हैं
पर
कोई बिना दिखाऐ भी इतना प्यार किए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

पेड़ तो अपना फल खा नही सकते इसलिए हमें देते हैं...
पर
कोई अपना पेट खाली रखकर भी मेरा पेट भरे जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

मैं तो नौकरी के लिए घर से बाहर जाने पर दुखी था 

पर
मुझसे भी अधिक आंसू कोई और बहाए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

मैं अपने "बेटा " शब्द को सार्थक बना सका या नही.. पता नहीं...
पर
कोई बिना स्वार्थ के अपने "पिता" शब्द को सार्थक बनाए जा रहा था ,
वो थे पापा. . .

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Thursday 28 May 2015

Beautiful Dusk !!!!!


સાંજ રૂડી રૂપાળી પણ હોઈ શકે છે....ભલે એકલા હોવ પણ એકલતા ના હોય...


શાંત નીરવ નદી કિનારે....પાછા ફરતા પક્ષી અને...



 આકાશ માં એક તરફ સ્વૈર વિહારી રંગો સાથે .....






સુરજ અને ચંદ્રમાં એક બીજા નું અભિવાદન કરતા હોય.....


....હા  સાંજ રૂડી રૂપાળી પણ હોઈ શકે છે....!!!


Sunday 22 February 2015

Trip to Polo Forest !!!!

Busy life....long client calls....irritating bugs....annoying managers....or f**ked up personal life. Most of us really dreamed to spend our weekend without worrying about all this freaking stuff. The place where we can enjoy our time with nature....known friends...or friends whom you never meet till date...and of course with your self. Yes, it is very important to spend some time alone.

 But how? Are there such places around Ahmedabad? Here is the answer - Polo Forest !!

Polo forest is one such place where you can plan your one day trip. It's just 160 KM away from Ahmedabad and roads are also very good and safe. You can spent some quality time doing nothing just sitting around dam site, river side in forest or walk around different near by places and temple. If you take service from local guide then you will be able to listen some stories behind every temple and places you visit. 

I have visited this place quite a few times during my college life on bike road trip and now I also had two trip with my office mates. 

Starting point of our trip was the ancient temple Sharaneswar Mahadev. As name suggests temple is dedicated to Lord Shiva and just like most of the temples of that age this temple is also famous for it's architectural view and cravings on stones. 

Very peaceful place generally but if you visit on weekend then it can be really noisy due to school picnics. When we visited last time there was some shooting going on for Gujarati movie and we had fun watching it. 









After the clicking few pics of this architectural beauty and having light breakfast we moved towards the actual trekking. As it was office trip the difficulty level of trip was very easy and safe. The hill to climb was around 800 meter high and distance to travel was 3-4 KM . For office goers like us it was still adventurous trekking experience. Few of us got brushes and strain in muscles as well. 

This area was not so known till recently but since last few years....after tourism gujrat has started various campaigns ,,,people has started visiting it. Ideal condition to visit this place is around monsoon when you can expect lush green beauty of thick forest. Bird watchers can find over 200 species of rare birds. Botanical experts can find 450 various species of plants and many of them are rare medicinal plants. They also says that it is a home of leopards, bears and flying squirrels. However during my five visit I have never seen any of them. So don't expect to see them :).













Once after trekking finished ....there came a time of getting rid of sweat , dust and pain of fighting with rocks and bushes. Yeah time to have fun with water....freezing cold and clean water. Dam built on Harnav river and a small stream of water passing through rocks and few check dams are real attraction. You can seat on the rocks at the Dam site and enjoy the natural beauty.






You can't have fun of playing with water on Dam site as it is restricted and very dangerous due to unknown depths of water. Guard also talked about crocodiles and other reptiles like snakes. However, they are not often seen at Dam site location. (No reason to get scared) .You can certainly have fun with water near the check dams. 

Due to the Dam build on Harnav river water flow in small streams always continue so even in early summer you would be able to see the running water through the check dams. Chilled and clean waters passing through round shape stones and pebbles by default get filtered. And as the say running water is always clean.







From My diary - 

I have been here at this place quite a few times every time with different group of people. So many memories associated with the place. Each time I have visited this place I have experienced something different. Let me share few pics of me and my crazy friends.....





















In short....it's totally worth to spend 8-10 hours of your weekend at this place.....be it with friends...family...school mate...college mates...office mates...alone....this place has something for everyone....musician can find his music....bird lover can find bird....heaven for photographers....fun place for water lovers....pure isolation for nature lover....and peace of mind for writers....

Friday 16 January 2015

10 question that bothers you most #QuarterLifeCrisis

One more time I am back with my favorite topic :p

So being 25 year old , a victim of quarter life crisis... I used to listen all these questions. I am guy of 25 well settled... living alone in cool city enjoying my life with friends. If not hating them....it certainly irritates me. 

Many of my friends are engaged...married....and very soon some of them will be having kids too. So it's not quite surprising that I have to face this questions. #SachKaSamana . That was little background I want to make you aware before throwing the list of 10 deadly bouncers to you .....which annoys me the most.

So here my top 10 situation and questions goes like.......

(Courtesy - Google Image)


1. When you are forced to attend some family function...you trying to hide out in some corner and        mom call you to meet some one and.....
  • Okay so...well settled in life.... what about marriage now?
Trust me...this question always pops up during conversation...

2. A very next question followed by above one is....
  • Aah.. all of your friends are getting married, perhaps you're next? 
Come on dude...take a chill....It's their choice, not mine! At least give me some valid reason :p

3. The question comes .....only moment after seeing some photos of your with friend in mobile or lappyy...
  • Ohhh Pretty lady....Are you dating her? Do you want to marry her?
Koi isko ...chup karao yaar....ye warna bachhoo ka name tak puchh lega.... 

4. While reading a news about Deepika turned 25 or Salman turned 49.....
  • You're also of 25 na? No plans of getting married ?
Areeyy yaar galti ho gayiii...25 ka ho ke... 

5. These all were people from out side...some distance relatives...real fear comes when it comes from Mom...indirectly......that too just after you have started eating home made food after a long time.....
  • You know Mahesh uncle's cousin's neighbour's daughter is getting married next week. (Get the underlying question there? )
I know ....my mom so I can change her thought process to different direction.....

6.  Then comes Padoshwali Aunty.... always eager to meet you...and immediately peep into you home...after seeing your car parked out side..... 

  • "Oh beta, padhai to kab ki khatam ab shaadi?" (Studies over, now marriage? Is that all to life really? )

7. After the aunt...now it's turn of uncle to give you advice..... (Khushi dekhi nahi jatiii ...hamari )


  • Why don't you do MBA if you're not planning on getting married? ( Please explain the connectivity of the two.... ye to Salman khan ko bhi suggest karenge....shaddi nahi karni to MBA kar lo....)


8. If this is not enough then....when you are attending someone's marriage ..... your elder sister or cousin will pop up....


  • In typical fat indian wedding ....where every girl comes in her best attire...." You know the groom's cousin is quite good looking. Do you want me to set you up? "( A big nooo....I just came here to have some food :p .... not to create a scene of Karan Johar's movie...)


9.  Now it's time for most dangerous question .....by your best friend ( by chance if she is female... )


  • WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED NOW? (Uhhh...uhhh.. what part do you not get?)


10. Final one mostly caught us off guarded.....and it comes from MOM....


  • "Beta, what do you want to eat? " ( Well....honestly...I love this one....but what scare me most is the questions coming after this.....and it's endless... )


P.S.:  Honestly....I have nothing against marriage. But what I think is that.... it shall happen when it happens (Even I am looking for one life partner....who hold my hand in my Up's and downs).

But then....I do hate it.... when everyone is hell bent on asking me the same questions....repeatedly...I hate it so much as a man hate the Sas-bahu drama...and woman hate rain after wearing brand new cloths.....Yeah.... I think you get the idea :p


Tell me...what questions...bothers you most .... :D

Sunday 28 December 2014

Waiting for 2015 !!!!!

Hoping the last few days of month December.... keeps flowing fast and passes in a wink!

Thursday 30 October 2014

Anger and Me !!!!

Yeahhh...finally it's time write something on this. So many times I have heard about this from friends.....I have made so many silly mistakes in those moments of anger be it punching a wall...window or breaking a glass in hand. I am not justifying my anger but just trying to be honest with my self to accept it as my weakness. Most of the times or say all the times after few minutes I realize my mistake and try to make things even which was broken or damaged by my anger be it a friends...a relationship or any non-living thing. Hardly succeeded in doing it ...every time I promise my self but then after sometimes I do it again. 

See....we claim to be a strong person in front of people around us....for the world...may be we can try doing in front of friends and parents but then it's difficult to lie to oneself ...nearly impossible. 

Sometimes we act foolish.... when we like someone...like someone more than we should. I am not talking about love.....It's the state of confusion....because when you are in love.... you forgive everything.... and keep on living in the hurt. But when you are not sure of your feelings....it keeps on piling and sometimes frustration come our in burst as anger.

Again.....the hitch here is that right differs for everyone....what is right for me may not be the same for you....and that's where the problem starts. Even bigger problem is the expectations....Expectations are a part of any relations....and they increase or change with time. Sooner you accept and acknowledge this, the better. 

What I feel is that ....It's very easy to be a shoulder when someone is sad.....listening him/her blubbering is not that difficult either. As per me the most difficult part is to make a room for happiness for that person. So if you know that you can't fulfil the latter....then there is no meaning of doing the former. Because in that case you always end up hurting someone in the process.

For the past one month (actually it's true for every month).... I have felt so many emotions....but most of the time it has been anger. Not on others but I think ....I was angry at myself. 

But yeah I am saying this.....there is also true that ....there is no room for regret in my life. I haven't regretted anything I have done so far......which I believe was my correct thing to do. I believe in autocratic democracy ...you are free to give advice but decision will be mine and...then I will take the full responsibility of my actions. 

But again here.....what makes me angry is when people forget.....forget the fact that you are human. ....Just like them....and also you can be sensitive....may be not for most of things but for something. You may get offended for that something....even may be by the smallest of thing....then I expect the other person to understand your anger.... Because what I believe is that Anger comes where there is love....there is care....I can't be angry at some random people....but than most people overlook the fact.....they become defensive....and that kills the understanding. 

Sometimes we feels that .....Life teaches lessons in a harsh way. And also it's a fact that we don't really know what's happening in others' lives.

It is also true that.....when I am writing about my stupid emotions here.....in some part of the world.... someone would be praying....praying to save a dear one's life.... someone would be waiting.....waiting for help after meeting with a horrible accident.... someone would be celebrating....celebrating a success at career......also someone would be happy .....very happy because the girl he loves just said yes (lucky boy)..... and someone must have lost a huge assignment still fighting to start a life again. Someone may be trying to sleep and someone may trying to wake up.

You know what.....when the worst possible scenario chooses to be in your life.....you wake up every morning miserable.... and want to yell like a hell - why me. But there is not answer....whether you chose it... Or it chose you.... In any case it's you who has to fight with this. It's a Fight within yourself.....To keep convincing yourself that you will have good days too. Until then..... try to look for the you.... that's gone missing.

If you are lucky enough then you will get it and.... If you get that....help me to know where to search... :)

Have a rocking life ahead :)

Tuesday 14 October 2014

Mentors....

Had thought about writing something on this long ago but was not able to put to gather respect in words. It's just that every time i sat down to write, i felt paralyzed. Where should i begin? every time i started to write something, i'd read over it and it didn't seem right. So i'd tear it up and promise that i'd start over again the next day. But one day just kept turning into the next and then , too much time had passed.


I would like to start the post with a short story.

"It was hostel canteen of an engineering college. As it was semester end examination time everyone was busy preparing and discussing exams,subjects and course content. Karan was one of those student present in the canteen. But he was lost in some thoughts. He was thinking of skipping semester end exams with a fear that he was not ready for it. It's not that he has not read anything or he was dull. But he just came back from home completing last rituals of his dad. He was brilliant student and had learnt the whole subjects through out the semester But i would say it was the lack of confidence. He was part of crowd but was lost in his own world of thoughts with lots of confusion.


There was one more person existed in crowd with having thought of skipping exams. He was Ravi . He was having same confusion due to some other reason. Both were sitting opposite to each other busy eating their lunch. Suddenly Karan asked Ravi why don't you have any reading material with you, have you completed everything? Ravi replied in low voice that he was planning to skip exams. He had make sure that no one was listening him. Skipping exam in first semester of engineering was equivalent to crime. Karan replied that he was to thinking on same line.


After completing lunch both them went outside of campus. They have watched movie , have roamed around city and had dinner at some highway dhaba. Both returned to campus late in night. Exam in engineering college is like festival. Most of the students were gathered in single room of friend and were preparing for the exams. These both guys have decided to skip exams so they went back to their room and collapsed on bed.


Aarif was student of 7th semester of same college. He had excellent record in college and already been placed in some multinational. Aarif and Karan were from city and they know each other. News of Karan was skipping exams reached to Aarif next morning. Campus was like home for students and they were like family such news can spread faster than 3G speed. Soon after hearing news Aarif rushed towards the room of Karan. He was still sleeping on his bed as he didn't want to attend exams.


Aarif had woke him up and asked him to wear shirt and follow him. In engineering college campus seniors gets more respected than Professors. Without arguing much Karan joined Aarif with puzzled look. It was 9:00 and exam was scheduled on 9:15. Aarif have rushed towards the exam hall with Karan. He had drawn 2-3 pens out of his pocket and asked him to attend the exam and write down what ever you know.


As soon after reading first question Karan was like yeah...i know bit about this let me write it down first and then second and third. He had completed paper with a great satisfaction. He has attended almost 80% question. Same was the case with other paper. Karan has completed the semester with B+ grade and completed his engineering with same. He is now working with some very good company with handsome package. It was due to Aarif. He had mentor Karan on right time. When on the other side Ravi didn't get that much needed mentoring . He had skipped the exam and went in depression. He didn't completed his engineering and lost somewhere in the crowd of unemployed youths."


The story ends here. But there are many Karan's and Ravi's are there but very few Aarif's. It's important for every Karan's to get mentors in form of Aarif's.

I too have many mentors in my life (touch wood). I have always been lucky to get someone to mentor me as and when needed. Be it school, college or company.

Many time i have tried to cry when i couldn't take it any more. But they have helped and taught me to get back and roar....


I would like to mention their initials....( ab,db,sv,no,tp,ht,hp,hb ,nj,mg,hc.)


Thanks guys to be there for me.... at some stage of my life.

[Note - Article is republished here, it has been already published in my older blog- http://time4masti.blogspot.in/2013/05/mentors.html ]